10 Proven Actions to Overcome Self-Doubt and Achieve Success

“Believe it and you can achieve it”. We’ve all heard it, seen it in others, but why it is so hard to believe in ourselves.

I remember a scene from the film “Pretty Woman” when Julia Roberts replies to Richard Gere “The bad stuff is easier to believe. Have you ever noticed that?” Her answer struck a chord with me and I still struggle to find my self-worth to this day.

Why this is true and more importantly what can we do about it?

In her fascinating TED TALK, ” Getting stuck in the negatives”, Alison Ledgerwood demonstrates her results from a series of experiments that prove what we already instinctively knew. It’s easier to believe the negative stuff.

That’s not the end of the story. She explains further, it does take work to think more positively and it is possible to train yourself to be more positive and build your self-esteem.

Here are my top 10 proven actions that have helped me through some bad times into the more positive and productive periods in my life.

1. Every time you have a bad day. Ask yourself “What was good about today?” You always get out of life what you focus on most. If your focus is negative you’ll just get more of what you don’t want but if you break the pattern with a single question and make an effort to focus on what you do want, then you are more likely to achieve it.

2. Set small achievable goals for yourself but make sure you complete them! Inch by inch you will start to feel that you are more capable with each accomplishment.

3. Set out to improve every aspect of your life by just 1%. Think about it. 1 % improvement in each area of your life, each day, builds up your motivation, momentum and your achievements which automatically help you believe in yourself.

4. Take Time Out. When you get stuck. STOP! Break the routine! Walk the dog! Go dancing! Out with friends! Sailing. Whatever you enjoy doing the most, relaxes you and puts a smile on your face. For me it’s saddling up my horses and hitting the trail! I learnt a valuable lesson from a wonderful boss I had many years ago. He used to laugh at me when I would stubbornly stay all night trying to solve a problem at work. He always told me to stop, go home and get a good night’s sleep. Inevitably the next morning, I would find the solution within the first 5 minutes of starting work. Solving a problem quickly gives you more self-confidence and it sure beats struggling on when you’re tired and telling yourself what a “waste of space” you are.

5. Eat that Frog! Mark Twain once wrote “Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you for the rest of the day” Brian Tracey used the quote as the title of his book for combatting procrastination. The idea is, when you look at your to do list, what is the one task that you least want to do. Do it first and get it out of the way, after, you will feel pumped up and more relaxed. Your productivity will sky rocket for the rest of the day as will your self-esteem.

6. Tell your inner self to “SHUT UP!” In his highly entertaining motivational talks Les Brown, hilariously explains that you would never treat others the way we treat ourselves. When that little voice starts nagging you about how useless you are. Tell it to shut up! It’s not what’s happening around you that prevent you achieving your goals. They are just hurdles you can go over, under or around. It’s our self-defeating inner voice playing on our emotions that holds us back. Give yourself a break.

7. Help other people. There are very few things in life that give you such an instant boost of self-worth than helping someone else. I thrive on helping others especially when I’m feeling depressed it’s an instant reversal to the slippery slope of depression.

8. Recognise your skills. List all the skills you are great at. Can’t think of anything. Ask your friends and family. What is it about you that everyone likes and admires? If your life is just an endless list of mistakes well maybe your worth is as the crash dummy of life. Half the battle in life is avoiding the pitfalls, and if you can help others in that respect then your contribution is invaluable.

9. Face your Fear. My favorite quote on this subject is from Oprah Winfrey “The thing you fear most has no power. Your fear of it is what has the power. Facing the truth really will set you free” In my opinion and through personal experience, facing your fear head on will only make you stronger. Last year was the hardest year of my life. My beautiful 4 yr. old son was diagnosed with a rare and very aggressive form of Leukemia. BUT despite the pain, despair, fears of losing him and loneliness at being separated from my other son and my family. I got up every morning to go and sit by his bedside from dawn to midnight. It was hard, very hard but he is on the road to recovery now and both of us have come out of the experience so much stronger and less fearful than before. Do not let fear hold you back. You have so much to offer the world.

10. Do something you believe in. A sense of purpose is one of the most powerful ways to feel fulfilled. When you know why you are doing something. The drive and motivation just flow without effort.

The most important message I want you to learn is keep moving forward. “When you rest you rust” No matter what happens to you in life don’t give up. Let go of the past, stop fighting it. It’s like hitting your head against a brick wall, only you get hurt. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Forgive those who have hurt you. May be you should thank them for they have made you more aware and stronger.

Get off the “Pity Potty”. Dust off your dreams and start living your life. Don’t let anything or anyone stop you. It will not be easy; if it was easy then everybody would be doing it. Success will be all the sweeter, having worked hard and overcome all the obstacles.

It took the horror of my son Leukemia to snap me out of my “I’m not worthy” mindset. Since then I have started a new online business, which allows me precious time to be with my children and animals, financial freedom to buy a new home and I can help other people realize their dreams.

What’s your dream?

What It Takes To Achieve Financial Freedom

What does it take to achieve financial independence? Well, the truth is that there are and there have been many ways through which people have achieved financial freedom.

While success in the past might have come from social and political connections for instance, in today’s business environment for instance, success comes from taking advantage of today’s better circumstances; you don’t need to know anybody to excel in business! Let me explain:

The Ease of Starting a Business in Today’s Business Environment

Many things have made starting a business easier than it has ever been; the development of technology is key among these things. More precisely, starting a business is many times easier today than it was 20 years ago because of advancements in communication have made it easier and convenient for businesses to connect and communicate with buyers. The internet has particularly made it easier to access information about anything. This is undeniably important in starting and managing any business.

Technology has had a tremendous positive effect, an effect millions of people are taking full advantage of to start and grow their businesses. Avenues such as mail, text, and instant messaging, video, live streaming, social media, and other budding tools have been among the most fascinating things technology has given the business world, giving it a major face lift.

That’s not all; many aspects of starting and conducting a business have radically changed. For instance, the way businesses engage in transactions and marketing to consumers has taken on a completely new life of its own. One of my friends described technology five years ago; he said, “Technology is support brought to us by nature that we simply can’t refuse. It makes it a lot easier to start a business and feel safe doing it. “

A lot of this fundamental shift in the way we conduct business today goes back to the constant change in technology and the way people go about exchanging money. Below are two of the numerous areas where we have experienced major changes in how we do business.

We shall discuss them in a bit more detail so we can get a glimpse at what tech has changed.

The Internet

Twenty years ago, the widespread public use of the internet was still in its infancy. People were still getting over the wow-factor of building websites, using basic functions of the internet, learning new ideas, acquainting themselves with the use of email, and corporations were really competing to control the online marketplace. Google, Facebook, Amazon, and others emerged as central hubs of contemporary commerce in the digital domain.

Since then, we have seen the coming of age of technologies such as social bookmarking, social networking, search engine optimization, and other types of digital traffic generation. Today, these opportunities exist as a standard basis of operation in an enduring effort to grow sales volume on the internet.

The blogosphere, affiliate programs, and email lists that have auto-responders have come up as equally worthwhile avenues businesses can use to reach out and market to consumers. Currently, the internet has realized profits worth billions from the number of business transactions occurring online.

Modern business owners have a completely new perspective and outlook on marketing to consumers, and one demonstration of this is through the shift from traditional print advertisements and the ongoing efforts to create and develop company websites. The search for new ways to take advantage of the internet to produce new means of tapping into untapped online traffic continues.

POS Systems

A few decades ago, we had very little expertise on mobile payments or any experience with touch-screen product access especially in retail establishments. The emergence of modern point of sale systems (POS) has done a lot in offering modern retailers a great deal of benefit in optimizing their sales volume. By giving clients direct to on-site products and many payment options, POS systems make it cost effective and efficient to run a retail business.

Automation, a method that allows for inventory control measures, has completely revolutionized the current means of tracking and ordering inventory. Other developments such as mobile payments are still spreading fast.

That’s not all; with technology, new types of products have come into existence. Books are no longer the print books we used to have back in the days for instance; there are various digital versions of books (e-books), which are increasingly being consumed daily. This obviously requires a different method of product access and delivery to the customers (all done electronically), a phenomenon that has opened doors for limitless options on what someone can sell. Gone are the days when you could only stock physical goods when running a business- digital goods are taking over and presenting with them new forms of efficiency that allows businesses to run somewhat on autopilot and on minimal costs while targeting customers all over the world. That was unheard of in the past! What’s even more interesting is the way payments are processed; it is just in ways many of us could not fathom a few years ago. You can receive payment from someone living in a different country without having to go to any bank and feel safe that your money is safe. The revolution of payments (which is automated) allows businesses to accept payment for goods and services day in day out from anywhere in the world (it doesn’t matter whether their offices are closed- with a website and payment systems set, everything takes place seamlessly).

We could go on and on about how technology has developed because it evidently has, in hundreds of ways. Technology has made it starting a business a lot easier than it was two decades ago.

For instance, because advances in communication have made it possible for information to travel quicker and more effectively, distance barriers have disappeared and many businesses are wholly exploiting options such as outsourcing overseas. Businesses can now outsource duties like telephone customer service, live chat, blog and article writing, and computer programming, and this is just but one of the numerous aspects of outsourcing. Moreover, businesses can now offer live support through a wide array of digital channels like mobile phones (Skype, WhatsApp etc. ), live chat on their website, phone calls, social media and much more; the options are just limitless on how to reach out to past, current and potential customers to maximize sales and customer experience. Much of this can be done on the move; you don’t need to be seated in an office to offer support; you could be out and about, at home, touring the world, in a different continent etc. , which essentially means you don’t have to babysit the business to make it successful!

Technology has also made it easier to seek help or support. With the internet, the possibility of reaching hundreds of successful entrepreneurs and mentors is now possible through many platforms such as social media. By doing something as simple as typing words on the internet, you can reach many mentors who are willing to help startups in different and unique ways.

Many people out there have taken full advantage of the change we have today and the current opportunities to create wealth from entrepreneurship.

It is your prerogative to take advantage of the current state of affairs – the ease of doing business today; it has not always been like this!

A Stroll Down Memory Lane: The Business Environment of Yester Years

Let us take a trip down history and for comparison purposes, look at the state of doing business in the past.

First, in the past, there was a clear line between professional and private life. There were no phones, fancy tablets on which to check the stock market information at the comfort of your home, or laptops to carry work from your office to your house.

Before the 1990s, it was not easy to run business when you are away from it as we do today thanks to smartphones. Making calls outside payphones at gas stations was the norm and calling your employees or partners each time you had something new was obviously not easy back then.

It was even tougher getting work from different places; this is contrary to the online leads we have today. In 1994, there was a telemarketer. Business leads came through calls and perhaps referrals from a partner. Imagine that! It would take forever to grow, I imagine.

Globalization has also changed the business scene. In the past, only large businesses had the capacity to trade abroad. It was even more difficult to operate a business in more than one country.

In the past, licensing and other regulatory measures were tedious thanks in part to vexatious government bureaucratic tendencies that would make one hate themselves for thinking about starting his/her own business. At least today, governments have changed some policies and adopted others that make it easier to conduct business in multiple countries.

Because of a lack of efficient communication and other technology such as the internet, in the past, it was difficult to access support from experts or contact mentors. In the past, you would have to go through the trouble of meeting someone (usually marred by transport problems) to ask for technical help and guidance.

Looking at these things, you will undoubtedly agree with me when I say the internet has changed how entrepreneurs start and conduct business.

Nonetheless, things are not perfect, at least not for many people. Here is what I am talking about:

Doing Business Today: Modern Business Challenges

Even with the world having gone through massive changes such as those we have discussed – technology making it easy to start and manage businesses and expert mentors all over the world (often a click away) ready and willing to help – most of us are still not feeling confident or positive enough to start our businesses. For some, it is not a mere lack of confidence; they lack capital while others lack additional financial support from local lenders. They have very good business ideas but cannot implement them simply because they lack the funds to do so. Other people have enough capital but cannot lay out any good business idea.

I have personally met a few who have very good business ideas and the capital to start a business, but they never do so because “they find it difficult to leave their corporate jobs. ” They also claim not to have enough time to start a business from scratch, or merely stick to the “I think it’s too late” platitude.

This means that even with the world having changed, excuses, obstacles, and different kinds of pitfalls continue to exist; however, one thing is for sure, the starting-a-business challenges that may affect you today do not compare to those of starting a business in the past.

Who Wins & Who Loses

The truth is; it is much easier to start and grow a business to unfathomable levels than it is to climb the corporate ladder; there are many startups that are less than 5 years old that are averaging over a million dollars a year with very few employees to support the business. The question is; how long do you think it will take for your 9-5 to pay you a million dollars or even half of it? You decide!

Even with the current opportunities; there will be winners and losers in life. The winners are those that will choose to take the leap of faith and start taking action as far as starting their own businesses goes (you don’t have to quit your day job!) and losers will be those who decide to play safe.

With me acting as your guide through the maze of everything you need to know in respect to starting a successful business, I believe you will see things differently and take full advantage of the currently existing favorable business environment even when it has its fair share of obstacles you will undoubtedly have to tackle.

The solution to every obstacle is often simple. It only requires that you change how we think, and ultimately, how we do things. As entrepreneurs in the pursuit of real financial freedom, we have to realize that we are working in a rat race kind or world; we therefore need to change our way of doing things. It is impossible to imagine the joy that comes with knowing we have escaped the rat race and are making more money, working less hours on our terms, all the while making a difference in people’s lives.

START by changing the thought that working hard at our day jobs – usually in the corporate sector – is all we need to make it in life or is the easier option to achieving our ambitions and financial freedom.

With my little wealth of experience, I have realized that working hard for somebody else is like the proverbial hamster wheel for many people. You work round the clock, and your rewards (compared to your work value), which may be just above peanuts, never seem to be enough and a promotion is never a guarantee.

I can still recall a close friend telling me that after she started thinking about starting a business of her own, she would quickly dismiss the ideas simply because she lacked confidence to pursue that dream.

One day, she went to one of her directors with a load of ideas about how to increase productivity in her company by streamlining the sales department. The director only turned to her and said softly, “the day you become a director of your own company is the day you get to implement this. ” She said that it was in that moment that she decided to start her own company, and she did.

She went into the corporate world because of her high ambition; she also wanted money and respect. She worked her way up only to find out the truth about the ‘glass ceiling. ‘ She was working up to 80 hours per week for peanuts.

Starting your own business is the only guaranteed path to financial freedom. It worked for my lady-friend (she now owns a therapy complex) and it will undoubtedly work for you.

She merely followed simple rules that people who win, or rather, people who make it and become wealthy follow. The people who win at life and business are those that:

1. Desire to start early so that they can gain enough experience and in good time.

2. Have the passion to learn the ins and outs of a business.

3. Are eager fast learners and observers; if they are not fast learners, they are willing to do whatever it takes to learn.

4. Know how to adapt to any given situation because they have their eyes firmly on the prize.

5. Strive to achieve continuous personal development at all levels.

6. Seek mentors and do not necessarily try to reinvent the wheel. They listen to the experts and make good wise decisions based on expert guidance.

7. Seek help of like-minded individuals. In the world of business, no man is an island.

As for the losers, those who lose even with the opportunities that exist today are those:

1. People who are afraid to try new things.

2. People who are lazy, and don’t have sense of personal responsibility.

3. People who are unobservant.

4. Who are close minded

5. Who refuse to learn and read books, attend seminars.

6. Who are too proud because they think they know everything already.

I can sum up the above in this quote:

“To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people. “

-Charles T. Munger, billionaire business partner of Warren Buffet

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